The Paradigm Shift- Aligning Conscious Thought
We have stated and it is our belief throughout this blog series that, You create your own reality, destiny, world, etc. we have suggested learning to become unconditional livers of life, not responding to every condition that pops up, but rather creating the life you desire for yourself.
Today we want to discuss Paradigms. We’ve all heard and possibly have used this term throughout our development. It was a catchy term used by self-help gurus and even in corporate America. What is a paradigm and how can we use paradigm shifting to our greatest benefit, maximizing our greatest potential and experiencing the best version of ourselves possible?
What is a paradigm?
Dictionary.com defines a paradigm as a framework containing the basic assumptions, ways of thinking, and methodology that are commonly accepted by members of a scientific community. A paradigm is simply how you view and think about things- it’s your perception. It’s the way you see the world. But it’s a little more objective than the subjectivity that personal perception is. For example, someone stumbles into a store hazy eyed, with slurred speech, and acting belligerent, we could all objectively assume the person is drunk, due to all outward appearances, when in actuality the person could have just taken some very strong pain meds that caused this behavior. It’s our paradigms of how we have agreed a drunk person acts that gives us the deductive reasoning as to what’s wrong with this person. Not necessarily our personal perceptions.
Do you get angry or frustrated when someone zooms past you in the freeway at top speed possibly endangering your life and those around you? Do you have a zero tolerance to unruly children; how about you’re at your favorite restaurant and right next to you are the most unruly children are running up and down the isle, and what’s more the parents seem aloof, they’re doing nothing. Or maybe you’re at work and your co-worker just snapped at you in the most disrespectful way imaginable. And you fire right back and give them a mouthful of thoughts and things you’ve been wanting to say all the time anyway.
What if you found out the person who zoomed past you had a dying child in the car; the family in the restaurant had just gotten news that their grandmother had just passed away; and the co-worker had just been fired by the boss.
Would your perception/assumption change regarding the behavior you observed initially? This is a paradigm shift. It causes you to look through a different lens. It’s a change from one way of thinking to another. Paradigm shifting can be super empowering in facilitating us in moving from where we presently stand in life to where we desire to be- in our relationships, in our careers and businesses, and with our families.
Like most things relative, paradigms in and of themselves are neither good nor bad, they’re neutral. But we all have them. If your paradigms are negative, they can keep you in a place of unfulfilled, going through the motion, passionless life experience. We referred to this as “limiting beliefs” in a previous blog. Negative paradigms can keep you in perpetual bondage similar to being locked in a cell and held hostage by captives. Probably even worse because negative paradigms keep you held captive in your mind which is where all true freedom resides. Conversely, if your paradigms are positive, you experience happiness, your outlook on life is one of optimism, and you approach life’s circumstances from a place of joy.
It stands to reason then, that if you want different and better results in life, you should consider changing your paradigm, and that’s the good news! YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR PARADIGM!! You have control over how you view this world and thus can restructure your destiny. How do you go about doing that?
Step one: Identify the negative paradigm. Ask yourself some tough questions about the most important things to you and where you are versus where you want to be. How do you feel about money, relationships, the economy, religion, politics, etc? For example: “I have to work hard to be financially wealthy” or “It doesn’t matter who’s elected president, this economy won’t get any better”.
Step two: Tell a new and different story. You can use any tool at your disposal. Writing down positive affirmations, meditation, imagining, anything that you can use that shifts your mindset about a particular subject matter you wish to change. When the subject of money comes up whether from within or externally, let your responses be of that which you desire your situation to be. The same with the subject of men/women relationships, or any other subject matter, speak ONLY of the desired outcome for which you want.
Step three: Allow room for the paradigm shift and be patient. As you take on these practices, you must create space for the subconscious mind do its job, do what it does best, which is to help facilitate the desires, take orders, and assist you in achieving that which you want.
Just as it is now, that your conscious self is moving negatively in some areas based off your sub/unconscious self, so it will be when the paradigm shift takes place. Your conscious self will move in the positive direction towards you desires.
Many of our choices are conscious. They are the simple choices such as; “I prefer a black car to a green car, so I am buying the black car.”
However, many of our choices are sub/unconscious. They represent those areas of our lives where we feel disenchanted, disappointed, empty, frustrated, and unfulfilled. Our heads may tell us one thing, such as: “I have to stay in this job to pay my bills” when in reality, we dread facing our workday each morning.
Conscious thought – “I deserve the best”
Sub/unconscious thought – “Who am I to deserve nice things, I’m no different from other people”
Guess which paradigm is the more dominant? Yes, the unconscious paradigm/thought/belief. It could be called the sponsoring or parenting belief. It is the underlying true belief of what you say you believe. It is the belief that explains your current life status or present life experience.
Here’s a caveat: It is not necessary to get to the root of where the negative paradigm came from, why you think what you think, where did I get such an idea, etc., or any of those investigative approaches that some believe are needed to make the shift. YOU DON’T NEED TO DO THAT! It doesn’t matter where the negative paradigms came from, most of which either came from our parents, or our environments or a combination of both. What’s key to success is recognizing where you are now and where you wish to be, and how to get there.