Is Your Belief Serving or Limiting You?
What do you believe and is that belief serving you or limiting you?
This week’s blog stems from several conversations held this week surrounding belief. It’s very interesting to hear what different people believe regarding various subjects and also to reassess my own personal beliefs. Reassessment to ensure that what I believe is not hindering my desires and are in alignment with my inner being.
It can be a frightening contemplation to realize you no longer believe something that you held true for years. It sometimes can destroy the very thing we’ve based our lives on. Some things we believe because it was what our parents believed and their parents before them; morays of society and/or cultures, etc, especially with regards to relationships, money, and religion. What’s interesting is we often continue beliefs in spite of their obvious disempowerment, in spite of new experiences that our lives have taught us that provide support for new beliefs, and in spite of the fact that they simply just don’t feel right.
In one conversation, it was my friend’s belief, based on what is written in Genesis 3:16 in the Bible, that she would always be without or in wanting of a man always. In another conversation my friend expressed to me that no matter how much love her children showed their father regarding an estranged relationship, that it was impossible to have any lasting effect. Yet another conversation it was expressed that despite any efforts made, a young lady believed it was next to impossible for her to have a good relationship with her brother. The irony is, they’re all absolutely correct. Because the universe, being it’s consistent deliverer, constantly reveals and supports every one of these scenarios. That’s how it works- you believe something to be true- law of attraction yields evidence to support that which you believe, and so the cycle goes on and on. This is why it is next to impossible to convince someone of anything other than what they believe to be true because they have “facts” to support that which they believe, whether it serves them well or hinders them. The true reality is YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF THE FACTS through your chronic thought patterns which = beliefs.
A belief is a thought you’ve practiced long enough, over and over, until now it becomes true for you. Some say limiting beliefs come from the subconscious, others believe they come from our environment. Which came first, the belief or the life experience? It doesn’t matter how we picked up limiting beliefs. The only thing that matters is that we recognize that the negative emotion is pointing them out to us. Negative emotion is saying to us: You’re holding a belief that is thwarting your light from shining. It’s hindering the God force or creative life force that is naturally being drawn through you.
All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs. Belief that you can- do something. The moment we begin to honestly question our beliefs, identify those which are limiting, and the experiences we assign to them, we no longer feel absolutely certain about them. This opens the door to replacing our old, disempowering beliefs with new beliefs that support us in the direction we want to go. When we develop the absolute sense of certainty that powerful beliefs provide, then we can accomplish virtually anything our mind can conceive, including those things other people are certain are impossible.
Our belief is what gives us our compass for the direction in which we move. For many, many years the majority of the world believed that the sun revolved around the earth and not vice versa. And we can see how easy it was to believe that as when you look out and it appears that the sun is rising and setting in the mornings and evenings. Likewise, it wasn’t until 1954 that anyone believed that it was even close to being possible that someone could run a mile in 4 minutes or less until Roger Bannister did it and then shortly thereafter, many people broke the same record. In a more recent example, in 2013 Diana Nyad swam from Cuba to Florida, 110 miles, without the aid of a shark tank, after 5 unsuccessful attempts, and at 64 years of age! One feat that many if not all believed impossible to do. The point here is, belief has a direct impact on the action or non-action taken.
Oftentimes moving through your day-to-day experience, you can tell that you have a limiting belief, or at least you can tell that something is amiss within you because you can feel the strong negative emotion that is within you. It often comes forth right after you have clearly identified that you want something. When you clearly identify that you want something, when you heighten the focus of some desire and the energy begins to move more quickly — the limiting energy becomes more evident. A basic example is, the desire for financial independence, and then the almost
simultaneous limiting belief that it can’t happen.
So as you go about your weeks ahead, think about what you believe; identify them. And then ask yourself, is this belief serving me best towards attaining my true desires? If they are not here’s a few things you can do:
- Clearly identify the limiting belief
This requires some level of attention. But the simplest approach usually is to look at what you’re wanting in life, what your desires are, ie. a better relationship with my estranged dad, a soulmate, more expendable income, etc. Then notice your beliefs regarding these desires. You might note how strong each belief is and what emotions they elicit in you. THIS IS USUALLY YOUR INDICATOR THAT THE BELIEF IS CONTRADICTORY TO WANT YOU WANT! Limiting beliefs usually contain the word never, can’t or impossible, or contain absolutes like always but in a negative connotation. And you can count on a limiting belief to always do one thing – NOT FEEL GOOD.
- Acknowledge that these are beliefs, not truths!
Realize that just because it’s a belief you’ve carried around for a long time, it doesn’t mean it’s true nor does it mean it can’t change. This is often the hardest step. “But, but, my limitations are real!” Here’s the place where choice comes in. Which are you more interested in: defending your limitations to the death or achieving your goals and desires? Sticking with the belief that you now know for certain is not serving you or adopting a new belief that yields you the results you want. As author Evelyn Waugh wrote, “When we argue for our limitations, we get to keep them.” You choose.
- Except a different belief.
There is nothing wrong with saying “I no longer choose to believe that, I now believe this…” There is nothing noble about hanging onto a belief that disallows and disempowers you. Use your imagination and try on a belief that is aligned with what you want. Make new and different statements that are no longer disempowering, and that support your new belief. The trick is to go beyond just saying it. You want to really step into this new belief and feel how it feels. Done thoroughly, this step and the one previous will go a long way to dismantling your old limiting belief.
- Take different action.
WARNING: This might feel a little scary, after all, you’ve probably been practicing your belief for years, but act as if your new belief is true. In other words, if you really are a loving spouse, how would you act towards your husband/wife? What things would you do to demonstrate acts of love? If you really are capable and have learned a tremendous amount from past financial difficulties, what steps would you take now with the new belief that you can attain financial abundance? If you really are the kind of person who eats healthy food, what will you put in your grocery cart?
Caveat: Sometimes new beliefs come naturally and require no effort whatsoever to don. Because as you continue to work on your alignment, certain beliefs are no longer applicable to your experience. They simply no longer coincide with your Inner Being. You now know better, so it is sometimes easy because the old belief no longer makes sense, and most importantly- it doesn’t feel right.